For the past few weeks, I have been participating in a challenge designed by Mischa’s team called “The 30 Day Hustle Challenge”. It is a construct of habits used by great leaders, designed to bring focus and clarity to you in order to achieve your personal and professional goals. Our biggest purpose is to inspire growth, and therefore, we must inspire change. If we continue to do what we’ve always done, we will always get what we’ve always gotten.
We usually know we want to make some kind of change in our lives, we just don’t know where to start. So join me, by incorporating this morning/evening routine, along with a few daily rules, that will make a big impact on your day, and, your life.
The importance of starting a morning routine is to jolt you with energy, love, confidence and an open heart to start the day. We turn our unconscious mind into a conscious one filled with intention and gratitude.
We start the day with an ice cold shower. This leaves no room for contemplating or complaining. You jump out of bed and do it. Prove to yourself you can. This wakes you up both physically and mentally, providing the ideal foundation for thought and focus. The accomplishment of this task raises your dopamine giving you a sense of strength that you overcame something you didn’t think you could. This feeling you receive therefore increases your motivation for more accomplishments.
We move on to “thought priming”. For this section we have borrowed the routine from Tony Robbin’s, world famous NLP coach and best selling author. (NLP stands for Neuro-Linguistic Programming: An approach to communication, personal development, and psychotherapy.) You can call this our “meditation session” lasting 10 minutes.
- We sit down with our eyes closed, and think about 3 things we are grateful for. They can be as big as your successes, and as small as the wind touching your face. There is an infinite abundance to be grateful for; focus on 3. This should take 3-4 minutes. Really concentrate on those things with all of your senses as if you are living it. Be all there. It may take some time at first, but it gets easier each day.
- Afterwards, we focus on 3 goals we want to accomplish. They can be small goals for the day, or big goals for the week, month or year. Remember even small goals, bring you one step closer to your bigger picture. Don’t undervalue them. Visualize yourself as though you’ve already accomplished these goals. Visualize the feeling this creates for you. This forces your subconscious to truly believe how attainable they are. This is something Tony does every single day.
- Lastly, we direct our focus on love. As Tony says, “love is not a noun, it’s a verb”. We must actively perform it day to day. We must put effort into it. Concentrate on what you love, and sink into the deepest details of what you love about it. Love life, and life loves you back.
We drink a large glass of water (more water less problems) and prepare a nutritional breakfast. Whether it’s a meal, a smoothie, a piece of fruit- make it a healthy one since we are in the process of nourishment. Enjoy it with your full consciousness. Again, be grateful to have something to eat. Be aware of your privilege.
***During this entire morning routine, the use of any electronic equipment is prohibited. It is an intimate and extremely sensitive time that requires full concentration. The use of social media or reading terrible news all over the world right after getting up does not contribute to your well-being; and requires energy like everything else. Remember: Energy is limited. Save your energy in the morning so you still have enough of it to focus on the essential and much more important things in the day.
How much time you decide to dedicate to your personal development is entirely up to you, but the minimum is 10 minutes. Everyone has 10 minutes.
If you don’t have 10 minutes, you don’t have a life. -Tony Robbins
In the evening routine we review the day and reflect on it. We think about what went well and what could have been improved, to keep in mind how we might like to act differently in the future.
We think about the interactions we’ve had with others. Become aware of the situation and your behavior. How well did it go? Do I feel comfortable with myself? Did the other receive the best version of me? Was I 100% in the conversation and not elsewhere? Did I concentrate on my counterpart? This analyzation is significant because social skills and dealing with others are one of the most important abilities to perfect.
- We create a success story book to carry out every evening. We write down 3 successes of the day. They can go hand in hand with your daily goals you thought of earlier, or they can be completely random tasks you view as success. (i.e. Calling your mom, going to the gym, going the whole day not complaining…etc.) Only you can determine your successes.
- Remember beautiful situations in the day. Moments of pure joy and happiness. Satisfaction. Feel gratitude for having experienced this day. You cannot suffer from anger, stress, sadness or irritation, and be grateful at the same time. Release suffering and end the day in gratitude.
- We create a short to-do list for the next day to define where exactly we want to put our energy. Tasks are prioritized and the most important are done first. We will work as efficiently as possible with full concentration on each task as it is being done.
We end the night by investing at least 20 minutes in reading a book. I personally like to choose books on Self Development, Love, Relationships or anything else which interests me that I can take value from. Occasionally I like to read a fiction novel if it provokes inspiration. What you read is entirely up to you, what’s important is that you read!
Reading provides you with vital information, trains your brain, makes you more creative and encourages your consciousness to remain present in the here and now. You learn not to become distracted and to control your thoughts. If you have 20 minutes to scroll on Instagram, you have 20 minutes to read!
- The use of social media is limited to 2 sessions per day. (I’m still working on this one)
- When you perform a task, give it your fullest concentration and a clear focus, so the best possible work can be done and the right decisions are made.
- When interacting with people, also give them your fullest attention and focus only on what is now. The ability to be present in the moment requires awareness.
- We take an active part in the thoughts that have swept through our heads throughout the day. If these are destructive and create bad emotions in us, we accept these emotions (= we accept what is), because only in this way can we separate ourselves from these and bring our focus back to positive.
- We always see and focus on the good in things / people and try to get the best from every situation.
- We give our energy to the things that carry us forward and radically detoxify ourselves from things / people who rob us of our energy.
- We define fundamental priorities, i.e. time with family / friends, time for self, etc., and make time for these things.
- We go through the day with a helping mentality. We help wherever we can (without hindsight) and thereby spread positivity.
- We decide to be better.
- We decide to be happy.